"I hoped they call me on a mission, and they did!"

Thursday, December 31, 2009

Happy Birthday Boys!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY JEREMIAH!


Today is my oldest grandson's birthday.
Jeremiah is 6 years old.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEXTER!


Today is my youngest grandson's birthday.
Big brother and little brother now share their B-days.

WHAT A SURPRISE!!!

Dexter Lorrell Dedman
12-31-09
7:33 AM
8.5 lbs.
20 1/2 inches

Happy happy birthday, children dear;
Happy days will come to you all year.
If I had one wish, then it would be
A happy happy birthday to you from me!

Words and music:
Children's Songbook - 284a
Mildred E. Millett, b. 1925. © 1963 IRI

Tuesday, December 29, 2009

My Temple! My Temple! It's My Temple!

Last night for family home evening we read our "Family From Yosemite" stories.  Rick even got on the phone from Okinawa to join us.  Our Tom, Elder Blair, will be part of it all when we send him a special New Year's package with all the stories. If you don't know what "The Family From Yosemite" is all about, read my post about our previous Christmas, January 6, 2009.  The following is my contribution this year.

“MY TEMPLE, MY TEMPLE, IT’S MY TEMPLE!!!”

By Martha Reynders Blair
December 25, 2009

We were on our way to see the Christmas lighting of the Los Angeles Temple. It wasn’t something we had done before as a family, but with our four children getting older we thought it was something we could definitely enjoy together.

We were rendezvousing with the McEwan family. Many of the McEwan children were the same age as our own. Brother McEwan’s father was the temple president. President McEwan and his wife maintained a residence nearby which would be helpful if anyone needed a potty stop, a rest, ect. All of which were concerns in transporting children to such an event.

Along with the McEwan’s we met with, President and Sister McEwan, in their home. It was so nice and we felt very privileged being there. We toured their cozy home and yes, someone had to go to the bathroom. There was also a little, round jogging trampoline (exercising apparatus of the day) in their living room. Yes, the kids all took a turn jumping on it.

We enjoyed a musical program that evening on the temple grounds listening to the Southern California Mormon Choir and an exceptional speech by the Mayor of Los Angeles, Tom Bradley, who officially flipped the switch to turn on the lights for the holiday season.

Our intent too, was to have a bit of a tailgate party. Keeping children happy with yummy hot chocolate and treats. We did and it kept everyone going for the evening. The cocoa was nice and warm which tasted good and felt so good on what was a very cold night. We enjoyed ourselves as we meandered through the temple grounds looking at the array of lights and listening to the recorded Christmas music that came and went as we traveled around looking at the displays.

It was really a very enjoyable evening, but none of it surpasses the moment as we drove along side the temple and got our first view of the edifice that night.  Let me digress just a moment to a family home evening not too long before this event. It was a family home evening prompted by the direction of President Spencer W. Kimball. He had asked families to hang a picture of a temple in their home. We decided to let each child select a favorite temple and we would display it in their room. Ricky, the oldest, picked the traditional Salt Lake Temple. Billy selected the St. George Temple. It was my favorite as a child too. Its very white walls made me think of purity. For this reason, I always thought it looked particularly holy. Cassie the youngest was quick to say she liked the Los Angeles Temple which was where Hugh and I were married. Becky then selected the only other temple that was in California at the time, the Oakland Temple. Each picture was framed and placed in a strategic place in their rooms. The idea was that seeing the temple everyday would remind them of the importance of the temple and how they should prepare to enter the House of the Lord.

We were laughing and talking as we turned off the freeway and headed down Santa Monica Blvd. It was already evening with lights beaming brightly against the very dark sky, but soon the temple came into view. It’s a view Hugh and I see all the time in our monthly sojourn to participate in temple worship, but it was new to our children and our fun togetherness was interrupted by Cassie’s excited screams. She pointed and pressed her face to the window next to her, “MY TEMPLE, MY TEMPLE, IT’S MY TEMPLE!!!” We all turned and looked out the window.  There we saw the Los Angeles Temple in all its luminous glory glowing before us.

It truly is a light upon a hill, majestic, and magnificent, bearing witness to all the world and calling, “Come, Come Unto Christ".  I was moved that night as I viewed the temple and heard Cassie cry, “MY TEMPLE, MY TEMPLE, IT’S MY TEMPLE!!!” Now she’s a young mother with a temple recommend, endowed with power from on high. She hopes her little boys will prepare seeing the joy and hope of the temple, not only from the picture that graces the walls of their home, but by the example she sets in temple attendance. It truly is her temple, THE HOUSE OF THE LORD, where He blesses her life and her family eternally.

Monday, December 28, 2009

Busy Again!

Our household became very busy when my mother went on hospice.  It got busy again during Thanksgiving, then the funeral, and now Christmas.  Yes, we've had family visiting each time, but now our busyness has taken on the added responsibility of helping our daughter move.  Cassie has been in Buena Park.  Today she is moving in with my dad, her Poppy.

It will definitely be a help to our family.  I won't have to spend the night over there like I do.  It will help Poppy so he can stay in his home.  We thought about moving him, but keeping an Alzheimer's patient in familiar surroundings is a good thing.  Even so, he gets confused in spite of our best efforts.  Yesterday he claimed he was 28 and couldn't believe he'd been living in that house for the last 50 years.

This move will also help Cassie because she and her boys have a roof over their heads.  Her fourth baby is due soon.  She'll have a chance to recover and regroup her life.  Divorce is never easy.

Our caregiver, Teresa, will continue to make daily visits to help with my dad.  We're hoping this situation works out for all.  As the new year approaches, we're taking it one day at a time.

"With the companionship
of the Spirit,
our approach to trials
will change frustrations
and heartaches to blessings."

Friday, December 25, 2009

Have a Great Day!

"For many people, 'overdoing it' is especially common at this time of the year. We take on too much for the time and energy we have. Perhaps we don't have enough money to spend for those things we feel we must purchase. Often our efforts at Christmastime result in feeling stressed out, wrung out and worn out during a time when instead we should feel the simple joys of commemorating the birth of the Babe in Bethlehem."
President Thomas S. Monson,
Christmas Devotional,
December 6, 2009

"Real joy comes
as we show
the love and compassion
inspired by
the Savior of the World."
President Thomas S. Monson,
Christmas Devotional,
December 6, 2009

Merry Christmas!

Monday, December 14, 2009

HO HO HO!!!!!

I'm all about touching base with my annual Christmas card and letter, but not this year.  I'm just plain sick and tired, so I've made an executive decision. I'm sending a Christmas wish via my blog.

Season Greetings!

Elder Blair dancing in the snow, thrilled to be in Southern Texas.

The real reason for the season!Simeon Reverencing the Christ Child
by Greg Olsen

Simeon “blessed God, and said,
... mine eyes have seen thy salvation.”
(Luke 2:28–30)

Merry Christmas
and a
Happy New Year!
from
The Blair's

Sunday, November 29, 2009

DOT MAC

Dorothy McMullin Reynders
April 22, 1929
to
November 29, 2009



If at first you don't succeed,
do it the way your mother told you to.
-- Author Unknown
(This says "Author Unknown",
 but doesn't that sound just like my mother!?)

  • My mother passed away peacefully this morning in her home at approximately 3 a.m.
  • View a slideshow of my mother on my sister's blog:  Beth's Notebook
  • Also, I have a mother who KNEW.  Read the words of Julie B. Beck:  Mothers Who Know

Friday, November 20, 2009

I'm Thankful for . . .

THANKSGIVING!

We're coming up on Thanksgiving week.
Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday.
It has always been my favorite for as long as I can remember.

Watch this video and start counting your many blessings:

  • I'm thankful for God the Father, and his Son, Jesus Christ, and for the power of the Holy Ghost.
  • I'm thankful for my family.
  • I'm thankful for my home.
  • I'm thankful for employment for my husband and myself.
  • I'm thankful for the opportunities I have to serve.
  • I'm just plain thankful.  I know I have been very very blessed.
What are you thankful for?

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!


"As we express our gratitude,
we must never forget
that the highest appreciation
is not to utter words,
but to live by them."

Sunday, November 15, 2009

It's All About the Grandkids!

The Dedman Boys

Jeremiah, Joseph, and Ammon
Their brother is due January 9, 2010
This weekend Cassie and fam came by to visit Grandma and Poppy.  I got a photo of the boys fun happy faces.  They never get to stay as long as they want.  They love spending time with Uncle Sam.  We're hoping for a good visit over the Thanksgiving holiday.

"We plead with you to take time for your children and your grandchildren while they are young. Special moments may come only once. Before we are aware, they have grown older, and our best opportunity for teaching them how to live happy and fulfilling lives is past."

Elder M. Russell Ballard,
"Teach the Children" Ensign, May 1991, 78

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Special Moments

It has been nearly three weeks since stepping into the realm of hospice with my mother.  Her decision to go the way of all the earth has changed things.  Many good friends and family have stepped forward to serve and say good-bye.  She has had wonderful visits and phone calls that have distracted her from her sick feelings and pain.  Mom is off all her medication except for the occasional pill providing her with comfort and relief.  She's not eating, but has been taking fluids.  She is surprisingly alert and has been a delight to her visitors.  She's starting to quiet down, but through it all her humor and advice come shining through.



Each life that touches ours for good
Reflects thine own great mercy, Lord;
Thou sendest blessings from above
Thru words and deeds of those who love.

What greater gift dost thou bestow,
What greater goodness can we know
Than Christlike friends, whose gentle ways
Strengthen our faith, enrich our days.

Karen Lynn Davidson from Hymn 293

For some inspired insights read:
"Lessons in Love" by Karen Ann Anderson.  She tells the story about the hospice experience of her friend Marie Holley. (Ensign, April 1986, 60)

Saturday, November 7, 2009

Compassionate Service

Coach, Teresa, and Mom

Teresa is our caregiver.  She's the one that does all the work tending to my parents while the rest of us senior sit.  She's the BEST!  She's OUTSTANDING!  It's not "just a job".  She renders service from her heart.  You don't get any better than Teresa.  My parents love her and we love her too.

Thank You Teresa 
Glitter Graphics
from the bottom of our hearts!

"Being compassionate is [a] great work of our Heavenly Father and a fundamental characteristic of who we are as a people. We are commanded to 'succor the weak, lift up the hands which hang down, and strengthen the feeble knees' (D&C 81:5). Disciples of Christ throughout all ages of the world have been distinguished by their compassion. Those who follow the Savior 'mourn with those that mourn . . . and comfort those that stand in need of comfort' (Mosiah 18:9).

"When we reach out to bless the lives of others, our lives are blessed as well. Service and sacrifice open the windows of heaven, allowing choice blessings to descend upon us. Surely our beloved Heavenly Father smiles upon those who care for the least of His children.

"As we lift others, we rise a little higher ourselves. President Spencer W. Kimball taught, 'The more we serve our fellowmen in appropriate ways, the more substance there is to our souls' (The Teachings of Spencer W. Kimball, ed. Edward L. Kimball [1982], 254).
"Dieter F. Uchtdorf,
Ensign, Nov. 2008, 119

Friday, November 6, 2009

Growing Up

The Birthday Boy
Sam celebrated his 11th birthday
Wednesday night, Nov. 4th

I'm not only late in reporting Sam's birthday, but also of his recent advancement. He received his blue belt October 1st. He also was invited to participate in another class that will include archery, swordsmanship, learning Japanese, and calligraphy. It's a little different than just the punching agenda and he's always wanted to do it and was pleased that he could participate. It will be a while before he advances to his green belt and this will provide him with some experiences that are well rounded in gaining a better understanding of the martial arts.





Four-character Idiom:

花鳥風月
Kachou Fuugetsu

Literally:
Flower, Bird, Wind, Moon

Meaning:
Experience the beauties of nature,
and in doing so learn about yourself.

Monday, November 2, 2009

Weekend Reunion


The Reynders Kids
Mark, Martha, Beth, and Adam
and our parents
Bill and Dorothy Reynders
It's been a long time since we were all together.  My mother going on hospice care is what brought us together last weekend.  It was a nice experience enjoying one anothers company.  My mom has been amazingly alert.  She's been happy to visit with us and talk to other family and friends on the phone.  It was a great weekend.

“Through the restored gospel we learn there is an ideal family. It is a family composed of a righteous Melchizedek Priesthood bearer with a righteous wife sealed to him and children born in the covenant or sealed to them. With a mother in the home in an environment of love and service, the parents teach their children, through example and precept, the ways of the Lord and His truths. They fulfill their divinely appointed roles mentioned in the family proclamation. Their children mature by living teachings instilled from birth. They develop characteristics of obedience, integrity, love of God, and faith in His holy plan. In due course, each of those children seeks a companion with similar ideals and aspirations. They are sealed in the temple, bear children, and the eternal plan continues, with generation strengthening generation.”

Richard G. Scott,
“First Things First,” Ensign, May 2001, 6 

Saturday, October 31, 2009

Happy Halloween Dude!

"Eat, drink, and be scary."
~Author Unknown

TRICK
OR
TREAT!

Friday, October 23, 2009

Comfort Care

I have a theme running through my life for some time now. It's called "Caring for Aging Parents". I'm due to blog about it.  We (my family) and Teresa Kelly, our caregiver, are in and out of my parent's home everyday. Teresa does most of the work while the rest of us "senior-sit". My dad has Alzheimer's and my mother lays in a hospital bed declining from the aliments of diabetes, congestive heart failure, and more.  She has an infection in her foot which she has been fighting for a very long time and currently has a urinary track infection.  She has been on antibiotics for over a year.

This summer my mother was in the hospital, to the skilled care facility (nursing home), and then back to the hospital many times. My sister, Beth, visited this summer and before she left we were able to orchestrate the situation and brought my mother back home.  I wish I could say she is happy to be home. Her care is certainly better, but my parents have no quality of life. It is my father's and mother's wishes to be home, but they don't know where they are most of the time.

A few weeks ago my mother was in the hospital again.  She received a pacemaker and we were hopeful she'd be feeling better, but it was only days and she was back in the hospital again for the ninth time.  I knew my mother didn't want to be there.  We've contemplated my parents situations and wondered about the next decisions that would need to be made.

Monday we (my mom, brother Mark, and myself) met with a hospice team from Kaiser. We assumed she would be coming home and be under the hospice umbrella, but that was not what initially happened.  After a few days of drama she's now home and officially on hospice as of yesterday.  We're feeling relieved and grateful for their help. Life in this world is coming to a close for my mother.

“Honour thy father and thy mother:
that thy days may be long upon the land
which the Lord thy God giveth thee.”


Bill Reynders - 82

Dorothy Reynders - 80