Thursday, March 31, 2011
Mrs. Blair, Do You Cuss?
I'm always heartsick at the many sad lives of children that I encounter. Sometimes it seems they are guided only by the negative in the world. As much as we gripe about schools today, it is there that many children are exposed to something positive. It might be the only place they find any good.
This conversation I share happened a few days ago. It was breakfast time at a junior high. I was doing my usual get-to-know you stuff. I ask questions about how everyone is doing to stimulate some conversation. I always try to see if I can remember every one's name. And, I'm always promoting kindness and explaining how we should be good to each other.
7th Grader: Hey, Mrs. Blair! Do you cuss?
7th Grader: Never, ever?
Me: Never, ever.
7th Grader: Why not?
Me: Because it isn't right.
7th Grader: Do you cuss at your kids?
7th Grader: Even if they broke the television?
Me: No! I might not be happy about my television being broken, but I wouldn't cuss about it.
7th Grader: Why don't you cuss at your kids?
Me. I think cussing is wrong. If I want to teach my children that it's wrong, then I need to set a good example. It's all about being respectful and kind.
7th Grader: (He looked at me with somewhat disbelief, shook his head and smiled.)
I found out later, from one of the para-educators I was working with, that they have a problem with this student cussing in class. Interestingly, he never did it (at least around me) the three days I was there.
When I got home that day I told this story to my daughter, Cassie. She said, "That boy will remember that conversation forever." I hope so.
"Our speech reflects the kind of person we are, exposing our background and our way of life. It describes our thinking, as well as our inner feelings.